Thursday 17 March 2011

Up, Downs and Wounds-a-Daisy!

You will no doubt have seen Amanda is suffering from ups and downs, as anyone would expect.  The pain is the number one factor, with the reliance on me to help being number two, the breastless area comes in at number two aswell I reckon.  Amanda was in a great mood Tuesday, until she actually got out of bed (not sleeping, doing stuff, typing, reading, researching etc), and went to find something to wear, she realised her wardrobe was not awash with mono-boob attire, even the simplest of clothing wouldn't sit how she wanted it too, they were either too low at the neck, or.... something else...
something that women know about, I'm not too sure, you only have to look at the way I dress.  I'm all about comfort!  Ha ha!  Anyway,  Amanda found this upsetting and frustrating.  She gets over these things pretty quickly though, and I had her giggling again shortly afterwards.

We went to the nurse yesterday, to have the dressing changed.  I rifled through the 'help yourself' tea & biscuits, shortly after Amanda had said, 'what are you doing in here?'.  I know when I'm not wanted!  This was an opportunity for Amanda to take a peak at the surgeons handy work, but she was still not ready.  She went a little light headed and whoosie witnessing the edge of his stitch work, I fear the full wound in it's stitched entirety would have been too much for her to handle in one go....  She will do it in her own time, when she's good and ready...

Only an hour ago, I received a message from upstairs saying, 'I've looked'..... Oh dear, how would she be I thought?  Can I come up for a peek?  Yes.  I pounded my way up the stairs, two at a time, with a final jump to clear the final 3.  I think this type of dynamic movement helps keep my muscles and joints in good shape, until that is, one day I misjudge the final leap, and end up launching myself into a back flip from the top of the stairs!  To be honest though, there is usually ample footwear discarded at the bottom of our stairs to break the worst of tumbles!.  Amanda was sitting there on the bed, she had removed the dressing, and there it was, 'the wound', visible under the steri-strip covering.  She was right, it wasn't bad at all.  Dehalvi had proved himself to be very handy with a needle after all, crap with the sledge hammer, looking at the bruising, but with a needle he was very handy indeed!  There was a little undulation, which didn't please Amanda.  Basically it's not flat, it's not flush to her chest, but it looked absolutely fine.  As she said in an email to her sister, Jane, 'I looked at my wound for the first time this morning.  It made my head spin a little, and is rather yukky, but I have to say it is nowhere near as gruesome as I'd imagined. Don't get me wrong its is far from a pretty site, but it can only improve, and I didnt faint or vomit on first peek which is a God send.'  That in itself was testament to, ahem, ' Dredge's ' handy work...

We are going to see if Amanda can get her results early so we can arrange a trip back to our birth home, the Isle of Man, next week.  I've already had a fallout with Flybe about rearranging a flight I'd already had booked for next Tuesday, but with Amanda's results being discussed next Wednesday, I wanted to be here.
If we can get them on Monday (it was going to be Wednesday to suit Dehalvi's diary, but his brother is ill, and he's going to be in Dubai) we could both go back to the IOM for a few days..... otherwise we will just sack the flight off, and possibly grab the ferry the week after.....

Thanks again for all the advice, suggestions and well wishes that keep coming in.

You are all very special....really special (I didn't have my tongue stuck between my bottom lip and bottom teeth then either), you are all very caring people.  Or are at least really good at pretending to be, like I do!  I'm evil to the core!!!!  Ha ha!  Take care x
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5 comments:

  1. would love to see you when you come over ,even if it is just to change your dressing.let me know if your up to a visit ,ian can take mark for a vegetarian beer and we can chill.Hope things are ok,love lynne xxxxxxx

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  2. OOOOOOhh well done you inspecting Dr Dehalvi's applique efforts so soon and NOT fainting!!! A trip home is a great plan if nothing else it will give this Manx lass and all the Banbarians who are obviously doin a damn fine job of pretending to care a bit of a bloody break and let the Manx take over!!! Loves ya

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  3. Lynney I will definately come see you when I'm over - I'm already looking forward it x Kesh I know that you are just jealous that I'm going without you and before you this year, but I promise to bring you back some Manx Knobs x Now that I have looked at the 'Gash' I'm forcing it on everyone I come into contact with, squeamish or not (girls only of course, with the exception of Gay ballet boy oggling husband Mark. Sorry Lucy, Caroline and Robyn - hope I haven't put you of having dinner tonight. Mmmm I wonder who I can show next.... Bet no-one calls to see me for a while now. Ha Ha. Love you all tons and thank-you all soooo much for everything. If there is any little thing I can do to return your kindness (as long as it does not require physical strenght)ask away. I'll be happy to help. x x x

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  4. AAAAwww thanks, 'Knobs' will be much appreciated!! Have a positive day honey......and if you need some stress release you now have 'Hope's' paws to squeeze!!!! Fluffy, pink, polka dot hugs with sparkly kisses - all e number, chemical and germ free!!!

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  5. Gosh! How did you know I called the bear 'H' for hope - are you psychic? or perhaps I told you and forgot? I do hope I have not contracted Mark's YPA (young persons alzheimers).

    My mum suggests last week that I needed a bear to rant at and beat in times of stress (I had been bickering with mark alot and beating him (beating bit is of course a fib. I considered it - but then I saw 'H', so cute, innocent and undeserving. I decided NO! I believe that acceptance, understanding the truth, loving and hugs are what heals and they heal far better than brut force, verbal attack, or lancing (which is why I feel sad that I allowed fear to convince me to let Dredge lance me). Of course fear and anger exist and need an outlet but thankfully I have you lots, this blog and meditation (my form of pray; these are my safe tools for cleansing. However, after receiving many concerned texts and email after 'Officially Shite Monday' I am left wondering if 'AJ SAYS' posts, should carry a warning that states: IF YOU ARE FAINT HEARTED, SUFFERING PMS, ALREADY EMOTIONALLY STRESSED OR CHALLENGED OR MY MOTHER PLEASE DO NOT READ - IN SUCH EVENTS, READ ONLY MARK'S POST - THANK YOU... It is not my intention to cause stress or worry to those that I love, I am simply having a much needed healthy vent. Mentally I am strong (perhaps a little odd, but strong all the same) and I will be fine. So worry not my lovely friends and worry less my lovely Mum. I can not find the English words to express my love and gratitude to you all - bloody language - I bet there is an appropriate word in Italian, Portuguese or perhaps French (Lucy?). In Portuguese there is a word "saudade", it encompasses the longing, the melancholy, the nostalgia and agony we experience when we are parted from those we love. I learnt this word whilst living in Lisbon and it perfectly described (in a single word) how I really felt about being apart from my friends family and daughter. I miss you just didnt cut it. I shall search for the word that encompasses the love, joy, pride, gratitude, humbleness, and closeness I feel at this time to and for all of you - my dear family and friends. Love and hugs to you all x x AJ

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